I find that the issue of loyalty to the Senior Pastor comes up so frequently in conversation with church staff and even core lay members that I’d like to challenge you to look through a new lens re: the issue of Senior Pastor loyalty.
Here are a few things to keep in mind:
- Begin by giving the other person the benefit of the doubt.
- When it’s time to disagree, do so privately. Don’t try to assert your opinion in a group setting (unless the group has been given permission to do so).
- Don’t go to other staff to gain momentum for your case.
- Understand that passion begets passion. You will be passionate about your service to the church. Remember that can come off very heated, so expect some heated debates. Look at Paul and Barnabas (a.k.a The son of encouragement).
- Agree to love each other even when it’s difficult to find the middle ground.
- The Senior Pastor should agree that sometimes he should default to you as the subject matter expert.
- You should agree that you don’t have his vantage point and will default to him when he requires it.
Do you have to agree on 100% of the issues? Re-cage your perspective:
- I don’t agree with my wife 100% of the time and I don’t expect her to agree with me 100% of the time. I do however believe we can remain happily married for our entire lives.
- I actually don’t even agree with myself 100% of the time. Seriously, we all make decisions or taken actions that moments later we’d do different.
If you agree on the majority of issues, there is much synergy. The minority issues need to be dealt with by grace, love and respect.
God bless you and your service to the kingdom!!
Sean Morgan | Slingshot Coach